Monday, September 2, 2013

Hidden Gems Magazine......First Issue

Hidden Gems magazine is being unveiled this month. 
The magazine will be available on instant download on Kindle.

Each issue will provide an avenue for mentor member feedback.  Tips and ideas for Hidden Gems meetings will be shared and members who reach exciting goals will be recognized in the magazine.

Sunday, July 14, 2013

Depression Behind the Smile

Are you a smile behind depression?  If so, you are not alone and most people understand.  There is great pressure on us to be all you can be.  When we feel we aren’t passing the test, it is easy to feel down.  I've kept up a smile behind depression.  Have you? 
Do you like the way you are coping with life's issues or do you want to try something new?

  










Saturday, July 13, 2013

Believe In Your Healing ** Retreat** Aug. 3, 2013 ** Auburn, NY

Hidden Gems Healing Retreat

Hidden Gems Healing Retreat
 “Believe In Your Healing”
Saturday August 3, 2013
9:00-12:30

□ Group Health Coaching Session

□ Individual STAR Session with chiropractic, massage, essential oils

□ Hidden Gems Group Mentoring Session

Feel Refreshed and Recharged!

8:45 Check-In
9-9:30 Intro Session: Determine Your Health Gold Mine
9:30-11:30 STAR Sessions, group discussion, &  quiet reflection
11:30-11:45 Break
11:45-12:30 Hidden Gems Mentoring Session

1-4 people $80 per person
5-8 people $60 per person
$30 Deposit by July 26th 

40 Great Ideas to Super Charge Your Life


Sunday, June 9, 2013

What we talk about in Hidden Gems

(Just a short list)

What it means to get out of your own way ...

Stepping out of a comfort zone and developing more confidence ...

How to avoid feeling stuck and isolated when facing a new life challenge ...

When you care about something more than your friends and family do...

When you are open to something new but others around you are not...

To what extent should you be there for family when they don’t appreciate it?

How many times is it wise to extend the olive branch?

Is having a relationship with God more difficult than it should be?

When to put your dreams aside and when to pick them up again...

Finding meaning when those around you struggle...

How do I recognize my purpose and determine value in what I do?

Who’s really shooting me down?

Being so busy fixing yourself, you realize your life has flown by...

How to reject “modern inconveniences” and re-embrace the natural rhythms of life ...

How to relax and not feel compelled to be busy all the time...

When is kindness a weakness?

When you want to be liked, are the right people liking you?


When is it okay to get off course?

Sunday, June 2, 2013

When to Lose the Rules: Event June 6

Join us at Downtown Books and Coffee

Thursday June 6, 2013   6:30 PM

RSVP:  315-277-1362

Monday, May 20, 2013

Auburn Meeting Dates & Locations


Auburn, NY Meeting Dates & Locations

Remember -- Anyone can host a Hidden Gems Gathering.  Let me know when you want to get started.  Call 315-277-1362.


Don't Stop Living Because of Chronic Pain---- May 28, 1 PM.  at the Office, 33 William St. Ste. 10.  Auburn, NY

AND

When to Lose the Rules:  June 6, 6:30 at Downtown Books & Coffee, 66 Genesee St. Auburn, NY


RSVP by calling 315-277-1362

Saturday, March 23, 2013

Calling: What Are the Prerequisites?

Everyone has a calling.  He or she may not call it that, but we all have a cause or a calling in our professional and private lives that improves the lives of those around us.

Merriam-Webster defines a calling as a strong inner impulse toward a particular course of action.

There are 3 prerequisites that help you make the calling a reality.  While we have many callings that sit in our hearts, a calling in action is what the world needs. 

Here are the 3 prerequisites:
i. Confidence
ii. Belief that your calling is of high value 
iii. Give up insecurities, especially when you allow other people's evaluation systems to impact you.

Confidence: Assertiveness & Seeking

Confidence is necessary to help you be assertive and seeking so you can research what you need to put your calling into action.  It takes a business mind to get things going especially if there are legal ramifications that must be addressed.  Knowing how to lobby the government, obtain certain licenses, etc. are some of the underlying needs.  Hiring the right consultant and gathering the people you need to make your plan more efficient takes confidence. 

Belief: Supported by Experience & Research

You must have a belief that your calling is of high value, even if others don't recognize the need immediately.  Part of this belief requires an understanding of the short and long term benefits of your calling.  Some of this belief may need extra education.  A calling about protecting the environment may need knowledge of eco-science. 

Give up insecurities, especially when you allow other people's evaluation system to impact you

This can be the biggest stumbling block.  You may have a great idea and the first person you talk to shoots it down.   It is easy to let it deflate your own desires when you allow someone's negativity to seep into your mind.  When someone shoots you down, remember that person is actually shooting herself down.  She is thinking about it in her own point of view, and certainly not the point of view that the calling is beneficial or needed.  

How many high school guidance counselors gave out lousy career advice because they used their own evaluation systems and neglected to understand the students' actual talents?  You have to decide if someone else's evaluation system should be your own.  We often adopt other people's evaluation systems that don't fit us.  The girlfriend who advises you buy the polka dotted dress is a simplified example.  If you know you would never feel comfortable wearing it in public, you are using your own evaluation system.

Not everyone is on the same walk with God, and that difference alone makes other people's opinions harmful.  

Do you worry about what other people think?  You can't let other people's insecurities become yours. Then, we are all just throwing our talents away.

Wednesday, March 20, 2013

The To-Do Trap: Building Your Dreams around Your Everyday Chores


The To-Do Trap: Building Your Dreams around Your Everyday Chores
Hidden Gems Meeting.

Noon.  At Dr. Lisa's Office.

Lunch will be served.
RSVP.

Call or text: 277-1362

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Here's a new term to put in your vocabulary:
"less empowering tasks"

Guest Writer:

How to Put Yourself on Your To-Do List


With Spring season around the corner, Easter Holiday in less than a couple of weeks, the first third of 2013 already behind us - most to-do lists are getting rearranged to accommodate the bare minimum of priorities. Did you get to your healthy habits goals for 2013 yet, or can it still be done? Or is that to-do already earmarked for Autumn 2013 and beyond?
Healthy habit goals that were set many months ago usually remain just that: goals. The true goal is to feel vibrant health and energy, fair enough, and the intermediate goals are seen as cumbersome stepping stones that don't exactly inspire enthusiasm. No wonder we manage to 'forget' to do them! Before feeling overwhelmed and despairing, consider a different way to move forward to your healthy self in a softer, kinder fashion.
What putting yourself on your to-do list looks like
Let's assume that you have areas you'd like to improve in your healthy habits. There are only two ways that this is going: either you are moving towards those goals or you are moving away from them. I'd argue that there is no intermediate ground here. Sounds simple enough, so now what?
· Look at your list of things to do and ask yourself which of these are moving me towards your goals in general (being a great Mom, getting the rest you need, fulfilling your obligations, etc.), and which are moving you away from them?
· Ask yourself, what is one thing I could add in that would bring me closer to my goals today? This could be anything at all but has to make you feel better. Call a friend you've been meaning to call, buy those vitamins you heard about, bring a salad to lunch, get a 10 minute foot massage, pick up the new timetable from the gym, download a fitness app, wear your favorite nightgown, etc. Just one activity per day is enough for a start.
· See what you can delegate and rearrange out of the list of less empowering tasks - you deserve it! Being a bedraggled do-gooder isn't inspiring for yourself or those around you. The negative self-message starts to be 'I don't deserve to feel good,' and then you wonder why it is becoming your reality.
Getting out of a rut and out of overwhelm is as simple as taking one action step, just one. It works better if it is just a very little one, as simple as looking at a photo of your favorite grandmother on the mantelpiece and pretending she is watching over you today. Say hi back to her image! Say thank you. Promise her you will take care of yourself, put that one item each day on your list, and watch your goals melt away to reality.
Tatiana is the creator of 'The Three-Step Mind, Body, and Self Care Transformational System' for professionals who want to feel confident, look great, and live custom-designed healthy lifestyles. She brings 8 years of health coaching experience to her programs designed for today's busy adults. Her dynamic approach brings out individual strengths to looking, feeling, and living one's best life. Visithttp://www.bodyvisionhealthcoaching.com to find out more.


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Saturday, March 16, 2013

Refining a Talent You Already Have

Do you have Shawn Spencer's talent?  CLICK HERE for more.


We're looking for meeting hosts.  Will you host a Hidden Gems Gathering?



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Saturday, March 9, 2013

Kick Yourself Out of Your Comfort Zone


The Next Hidden Gems Meeting: 
Thursday March 21, 2013 Noon, 
33 William St. Ste. 10, Auburn,  R.S.V.P. by calling 277-1362.

Guest Column:


Kick Yourself Out of Your Comfort Zone


Expert Author Avish Parashar
One of the great things about teaching improv comedy is that I get to see people stretch themselves and do things they never thought possible. For most people, improv comedy is out of their comfort zone. Watching a person step out of their comfort zone and gradually (or sometimes even rapidly) expand their comfort zone is a wonderful thing.
This concept applies to much more than just improv comedy. Getting out of your comfort zone is vital to any kind of success and to your own development, because all success lies outside of your comfort zone. Here's an important fact that most people never think about: unless you are 100% satisfied with everything in your life, you must get out of your comfort zone!
To rephrase that: if there is any area of your life where you are not getting the success you want and deserve, you have to get out of your comfort zone to get it.
There is a quote that sums up why this is true. "If you keep doing what you've always done then you'll keep getting what you've always gotten." If what you've always gotten (and are currently getting) is not what you want, then you need to do something different. Unfortunately, "different" is usually outside of your comfort zone. If you could just do what you were already comfortable with to achieve your success, you'd already be doing it.
The problem is that we don't like getting out of our comfort zones. The word "comfort" is used deliberately. That means that getting out of your comfort zone is "uncomfortable." Naturally, we don't like to be uncomfortable.
The mentality that keeps us in our comfort zone is subtle though, and often comes up in the form of avoidance. That is, we don't say, "I could have what I want, it's just that it's outside of my comfort zone." Instead we blame externalities, "If people would just hire me then my business would be successful," or we limit ourselves, "Oh, I could never do that." In the worst case, we ignore it all together. We don't think about what we want or could have, and we refuse to talk about. It remains a dream buried deep down in the back of our heads for years (regrettably, sometimes forever).
In my years of doing improvisational comedy, I hear the same suggestions over and over (audiences love to yell, "bathroom" for a location and "spatula" for an object - don't ask me why!). There is a strong temptation to "re-use" old material. If I have done a joke or scene based on that suggestion previously, I may want to repeat it since I know it worked before. In fact, I have seen many; many improvisers go down this route. Re-doing on old scene is a classic "comfort zone" technique.
I learned early on however that a joke or scene never works as well the second time around. In improv, it's the act of doing something new (stepping out of the comfort zone) that increases the enjoyment and quality. Once it has been done and is comfortable, something is missing.
Life works the same way. Staying in the comfort zone feels safe and good, but the quality is never the same. If there is *any* are of your life that you want to improve, then you must get out of your comfort zone!
Avish Parashar is a dynamic keynote speaker who uses Improv Comedy to show organizations and individuals how to quickly make the most of whatever life throws at them. He weaves together humorous stories, witty observations, and interactive exercises from improvisational comedy to get people laughing, learning, and motivated!
Get free humor articles and see video clips of Avish in action at http://www.AvishParashar.com


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Thursday, March 7, 2013

Where (Who) are Your Hidden Gems?

Priorities shift through life.
Are you in a new phase of life?
What is ahead of you?
How are you look
ing forward to it?

Time for a new purpose, you will be a new person.
You don’t have to picture the new you now.  But analyze your comfort zone.

People often dwell on the problems of the present.  If a change is desired, something (in regards to the "dwelling") has to be given up.

Keep learning to keep living. The brain is a muscle. We have to think differently.

Use the mind-body-spirit to thrive, don’t just survive.  When one area is suffering, the other two suffer as well.  Picture a sail boat that is drifting along.  It can be very slow and subtle until one day you look around and realize you have veered way off course.
What can be done when changing course seems too difficult? 

It is important to seek out the right connections.  Not just any connection.
Do you have a supportive network?
Do you need to find new people to add to your network and let others go?

Find out what Hidden Gems can offer.
Attend a meeting.  Host a meeting. Call 277-1362.



Monday, February 25, 2013

Thursday, Feb. 28, NOON. Be the Light not the Bushel

Be the Light, not the Bushel

Lunch Provided.
Join us Thursday.  
Bring a Friend.


Please R.S.V.P. by calling or texting.
315-277-1362.   

Sunday, January 27, 2013

The First Topics...

I am working on the first few Hidden Gems meeting topics.  

Here are the three topics:
(1) The Third Power Principle:  Formula for Fantastic Health

(2) Living with Your Health Personality:  the 5 Personality Types and What that Means About Your Health Decisions

(3) Healthy Family/Healthy Calling

The direction of future topics depend on you, the participants. The four basic categories are God, Health, Family, and Calling..... Wherever the conversation takes us.  Remember, you are the mentors.

RSVP so I can plan ahead. 

Mondays at 12:30  and Thursdays at 5:00/5:15
277-1362

Tuesday, January 22, 2013

Come to a Hidden Gems: Mentor Shift meeting!

We have two times to offer:

Mondays 12:30  PM and Thursdays 5:00 PM at Homic Advanced Chiropractic 33 William St. Ste. 10 Auburn. 277-1362.
Call to reserve your seat.

Our topic will be: healthy families, healthy callings.

Get out of the winter doldrums!  Get a fresh start in life!
You are a mentor.  We mentor each other.
Be a part of the mentor shift!


Saturday, January 19, 2013

Our Souls Are Hungry for Meaning

Our souls are not hungry for fame, comfort, wealth or power. Those rewards create almost as many problems as they solve. Our souls are hungry for meaning, for the sense that we have figured out how to live so that our lives matter, so that the world will be at least a little bit different for our having passed through it. 

-Rabbi Harold Kushner

As we venture out in the world to find our calling, we can sometimes get lost along the way.  We don't do it on purpose but it can be overwhelming.  We're told to try new things but for some reason we can't seem to stick to the real good things.  The not-so-good things are very tempting, giving us instant gratification.

Fame
We see people who jump from being unknown to famous so quickly they let the intoxication of it lead them into poor decisions.

Comfort
We see people who seek out so much comfort that they are weakened by it, unable to be independent or finding fulfilling relationships.

Wealth
Wealth is a tool.  It can be used for great good, but it can be misused and money is spent on self-indulgence.

 For the love of money is a root of all sorts of evil, and some by longing for it have wandered      away from the faith and pierced themselves with many griefs.  -- 1 Timothy 6:10

It is a perversion for people to want to enjoy money, but merely to make use of God. Such people do not spend money for the sake of God but worship God for the sake of money.

St Augustine, City of God, Book XI, chapter 26



Power
We always hope power is used to bring people up and not to break them down.

But meaning?  What is meaning?

“Man does not simply exist, but always decides what his existence will be, what he will become in the next moment.” – Dr. Viktor Frankl

But for this purpose I have raised you up, to show you my power, so that my name may be proclaimed in all the earth.  --Exodus 9:16

The purpose in a man’s heart is like deep water, but a man of understanding will draw it out.  --Proverbs 20:5

Is meaning a life without fame, comfort, wealth, and power?  Or is it fame, comfort, wealth and power shared so more than one benefits?  So we all benefit together?

Mentoring and being mentored gives us meaning.  Mentoring means we are enjoying our interactions with people.  We are meant to grow together.

Then the LORD God said, "It is not good for the man to be alone; I will make him a helper suitable for him."  --Genesis 2:18

How to Use Community for Personal Transformation

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Expert Author Audrey SeymourBy 
To transform society into new paradigm ways, we must first face the challenge of transforming ourselves and our own behavior.


Have you noticed that no matter how many trainings you take and how much inner work you do, the path of change still isn't easy? It's because we are creating entirely new perspectives that have never been seen before.
Do you try to do too much of it on your own? Do you tend to treat yourself with too much discipline structure and too little community structure? Consider that you may need less "just try harder" and more "just reach out more."
It's common to feel that personal transformation is a private affair, and to forget that returning to wholeness includes the fact that we are tribal and thrive when connected.
The kind of changes we need require our full heart and soul.Soldier-style discipline will not take us out of old-paradigm thinking. On the other hand, letting ourselves be inspired and held accountable by like-minded others allows us to stretch while keeping our hearts open.
10 years ago when I left the corporate world to start a business coaching practice, I blindly continued my Type-A behavior and tried to force my progress. Luckily my body rebelled! I had to slow down and find a new way forward that allowed for more heartfelt connections and presence.
Are you trying to create new paradigm results with old paradigm heroic methods?
Here are common limiting beliefs that might be keeping you from taking advantage of the power of community:
  1. I don't need any help because I know what I need to do; I should just try harder.
  2. If I don't push for change, nothing will happen.
  3. If I invite others into my process, I might listen to their opinions rather than my own heart.
  4. If I let people know I need help, I will lose respect in their eyes.
  5. I don't have the time and/or money that ongoing support would require.
Take a moment to explore what might be keeping you from receiving the full gift of transforming while in relationship with others.
After several decades of inner work I'm very familiar with the terrain, but every time I treat myself to a mastermind group or coaching session I am struck with the acceleration available. I'm not talking here about being exposed to new ideas, because that can happen in informal settings or on your own. What I'm pointing to is the kind of ongoing mirroring and reinforcement that allows us to gain traction in those slippery places.
Being witnessed by another or a group in a safe setting allows our deepest intelligence and wisdom to arise, take shape, and have a bigger impact on the world. Consider forming a mastermind group or partnership, hiring a coach or taking a class.
What challenges might you be able to dissolve with solid community at your back? What form of alliance would inspire you the most?
Audrey Seymour MA PCC is the founder and principal of Clear Change Group. She and her team help mission-based businesses increase their impact and financial flow. Visit www.clearchangegroup.com to view our library of articles and resources and receive your copy of "Eight Mistakes That Keep Change Agents from Making a Difference."


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